Make sure, that before you set standards for your teens to live by, that you also, plan to abide by them. Because breaking them, even if your teens don’t know, somehow welcomes a spirit of rebellion and still lowers the standard in the atmosphere of your home. It won’t be long before you catch your teen breaking them too. They will learn submission by watching you submit, and they will learn rebellion by watching you rebel. Your poor decisions don’t only affect you, but them as well. Sometimes the reason Parents have lost control of their teen is because they have not practiced self control. How can you expect them to do what you are not willing to do yourself? Your teens will not do as you say, they will do as you do. You must live what you are teaching, they will not understand double standards. Double standards will only cause resentment.
they dont hear what you say, only what you do..